अशेष  एउटा टेस्ट क्रिकेटको शृङ्खला हो । जसमा दुई  राष्ट्र  अस्ट्रेलिया र बेलायतबीच प्रस्तिस्पर्धा  हुन्छ ।  भनिन्छ; यो क्रिकेटको सबैभन्दा पुरानो दुस्मनी हो।  आशेस कि  बेलायत कि त अस्ट्रेलियामा खेलिन्छ ।  यसमा सबैभन्दा सानो उपहार भए पनि त्यसको  इतिहास दुई  राष्ट्रका  लागि धेरै नै महत्त्वपूर्ण छ । दुई दुई  वर्षको अन्तरालमा  यो शृङ्खला ५ खेलको हुन्छ ।  यदि यो शृङखला बराबर  भयो भने पहिलो पटक जुन टोलीले जितेको थियो त्यही टोलीले  नै अशेष  आफ्नो राष्ट्रमा फर्काउँछ । 

अशेषको  इतिहास १७०० वर्ष जति पुरानो छ ।  भनिन्छ, सन् १८८२ मा अस्ट्रेलियाको टोली बेलायत आएर " ओवल " भन्ने मैदानमा उनीहरूको घरमै उनीहरुलाई पहिलो पटक हराएका थिए । त्यसकारण बेलायतमा भनियो कि बेलायतको क्रिकेट मरेको छ र त्यसको खरानी (अशेष)   अस्ट्रेलियाले लैजाने छ । त्यसपछि बेलायतका  कप्तान एवो ब्लिघले अस्ट्रेलियामा गएर शृङ्खला जितेर आफ्नो गएको सम्मान र अशेष  बेलायत फर्काउने निर्णय गरे । त्यसैअनुसार बेलायती टोली अस्ट्रेलिया गए र खेले पनि । उनीहरुले खेल जिते । त्यसै समयमा त्यहाँ एउटी युवती उपस्थित भइन् । ती  युवतीले कप्तान इवो ब्लिघसँग  विवाह गरिन् ।  त्यही महिलाले उनीहरूले खेल जितेको समयमा डन्डीको माथि राखिने बैल्सलाई जलाएर एउटा सानो भाँडोमा राखेर बेलायती टोलिलाई  प्रदान गरिन् अनि बेलायतको टोली अशेषसहित फेरि बेलायत फर्के ।  यसरी नै एउटा सानो भाँडामा भएको चिजलाई दुई राष्ट्रबीच क्रिकेटको मैदानमा खेल सङ्घर्ष चलिरह्यो ।  अहिले २०१९ को कुरा गर्दा अशेष  अस्ट्रेलियासँग छ। सबैभन्दा बढी अशेष शृङ्खला अस्ट्रेलियाले जितेको छ। अस्ट्रेलियाले हालसम्म ३३ शृङ्खला जितेको छ । रनको कुरा गर्दा सर डोनाल्ड ब्रद्मनले ५,०२८ सर्वाधिक रन जोड्न सफल भएका छन् । उनी एक अस्ट्रेलियाली  खेलाडी हुन् । सबैभन्दा धेरै विकेट सेन वर्नले १९५ लिएका छन् । उनी पनि अस्ट्रेलियाली खेलाडी नै हुन्।    

 यसरी क्रिकेट खेल जगतमा अशेषको आफ्नो बेग्लै इतिहास  छ । प्रत्येक दुई दुई वर्षमा दुवै राष्ट्रका खेलाडीलाई आफ्नो अस्तित्व बचाउने होड अशेषले केन्द्रित गर्छ ।   

On September 3rd, the Machindranath Jatra was conducted despite the coronavirus pandemic. This act was seen as a very rude offense to the lockdown and the rules we were to abide by during the pandemic. The Jatra was very chaotic, after the jatra, the social media was filled with people sharing the unfortunate dispute between the locals and the police body. People had mixed feelings about this incident. Some in total favor of what had happened (i.e pulling the rath), some totally against it, some neutral (proper precautions should have been taken for successfully pulling the rath). From an outsider’s perspective, this may be considered a really big problem and it is. People may initially think that the people who came forward to conduct this jatra despite of a pandemic are to blame, but, as we all know there are two sides of a coin. We cannot discard the other side by not even knowing what the situation really was.

The Machindranath Jatra also known as the “Rato Machindranath Jatra” is one of the greatest religious events in the city and the longest chariot festival celebrated in the country.  The Rato Machindranath is known as the giver of rain in our mythology. This jatra holds a big importance to the culture and traditions of the country. It is held in Lalitpur, Nepal. This jatra is conducted once a year and it has been this way from ancient times.
This jatra holds great importance for the people that conduct this jatra every year and those who participate in it.

So, to make things clear about the chaos in the jatra, the people never wanted to pull the chariot in the middle of a pandemic when this decision could be very fatal. The people complained that the task was carried over to the government to keep the chariot in its rightful place. When the government did not do the task, the people were infuriated and made the decision to take the matter in their own hands to bring justice to their God. Many people misunderstood this scenario because of bad media coverage on this issue. There was this misconception that they did it just to show they could do it; but, the real situation was not the same. Also, many people reacted to this in very harsh ways. If the Nepal government was accountable toward tasks like this, there would not have been this problem in the first place. The government should not be ignorant about these kinds of sensitive things. The rath may not mean anything at all to us outsiders, but may be the only reason people are living at this point. For many people God and their rituals are the most important thing in their life. Not only this, many people have faith in these things and what gives purpose to them in their life. People spend their whole lives serving the god that was left wandering in the open streets. Religion and culture is not a word, they are a kind of emotion and no one can interfere in topics like these, the topic in itself is a sensitive issue. The government of Nepal did a terrible job as usual.

What has been done, is done. We cannot reverse it. The government should be aware of the fact that playing with people’s beliefs and faith can drive people insane and it did. We should remember that the people who showed up in the jatra were the same people that eat the same way as we do, sleep the same way, and most importantly they also have emotions. A few days after this incident, after conducting the chyama puja, the rath was pulled in a systematic and organized manner. Had the government taken initiative and taken this issue into consideration beforehand this incident could have been completely avoided. 

नेपाल धार्मिक,साँस्कृतिक विविधताले सम्पन्न मुलुक हो । यहाँ अनेक प्रकारका चाडपर्व मनाइन्छ । हरेक चाडवाडको आ-आफ्नै महत्त्व र सन्दर्भ हुन्छ । त्यस्तै मध्येको महत्त्वपूर्ण    चाड हो - जनै पूर्णिमा । जनै पूर्णिमा धागो र बन्धनको चाड हो । धागो अर्थात् बन्धन, पवित्रता र सुरक्षाको बन्धन । ब्राह्मण र क्षत्रिय पुरुषहरूले हिन्दु परम्पराअनुसार यज्ञोपवित अर्थात् जनै लगाउने चलन रही आएको छ । बाल्यकालपश्चात् विधिपूर्वक व्रतबन्ध कर्म सम्पन्न गरी गुरू-पुरोहितद्वारा अरूले नसुन्ने गरी कानमा गायत्री मन्त्रको उच्चारण गरेपछि एउटा निष्ठामय धर्म र सत्यको बाटो अवलम्बन गर्ने दृढ सङ्कल्प  लिएर देब्रे काँधमाथि पर्नेगरी दाहिने हातको मुन्तिर पारेर गुरू पुरोहितले मन्त्रेर तयार पारेको जनै ग्रहण गरिन्छ । नेवारी समुदायमा यस दिनलाई गुन्हु-पुन्ही भनी मनाइने परम्परा छ। 

जनै पूर्णिमा श्रावण शुक्ल पूर्णिमाका दिन मनाइन्छ । यो  चाड मान्ने तागाधारी जातिहरूले नयाँ यज्ञोपवित तथा रक्षाबन्धन धारण गरी यस पर्वलाई धुमधामका साथ मनाइन्छ । यस दिन वर्षभरिका लागि आवश्यक पर्ने जनै तयार गरी मन्त्रेर राख्ने गरिन्छ।  यस दिनमा ब्राह्मण तथा क्षेत्रीयहरूले पुरानो  जनै फेरेर नयाँ  जनै फेर्छन भने हिन्दुधर्मावलम्वीहरूले  हातमा रक्षा सूत्र बाँध्छन्।  धेरै जसो मानिहरूले यो दिनमा लगाएको डोरो लगभग ३ महिना  जति राखेर लक्ष्मी पूजाका  दिन गाईको पुच्छरमा बाँधिदिन्छन् । यो दिन  खासगरी  तराईमा दिदीबहिनीहरूले आफ्ना दाजुभाइलाई राखी बाँधिदिने र दाजुभाइहरूले  उनीहरूको रक्षा गर्ने वाचा गर्छन् । यसै दिन  सप्तऋषिलाई तर्पण दिने भएकाले यो दिनलाई ‘ऋषि तर्पणी’ पूर्णिमा पनि भन्ने गरिन्छ भने । जनै पूर्णिमाको अघिल्लो दिन जनै लगाएका मानिसहरूले कपाल दारी सबै खौरिन्छन्  र नुहाएर शुद्ध  हुन्छन् । यो चाड निकै उत्साह ,उमङ्ग र पवित्रताका साथ  मनाईन्छ । यो चाडले हामी नेपालीहरूको परम्परा र संस्कृति झल्काउँछ।  यो हामी सबैको लागि गर्वको कुरा हो।  

A deadline is a limit to complete work in a particular time and place when a certain assignment or work has been given. The work must be submitted before the time limit of submission, or the work won’t be accepted for a particular issue. The importance of having a deadline for an assignment, the deadline will help you remember the time and date the assignment has to be completed in, it helps you to concentrate and focus on your work and helps you to learn time management, and because of the fear for the consequence of not submitting the work on time will pressurize everyone to meet the deadline on time. Why does a deadline matter to us? The deadline matters the most because it ensures that the work will be completed at a specific time. Deadlines make clear what we're expected to deliver and when. 

There are two main areas to focus on when you have a deadline for an assignment, managing the deadline, and managing yourself. When managing the deadline you must think about your capacity to complete work on the given amount of time, if you can’t ask for a bit of extra time to complete. And when managing yourself, make a plan on how and what you are going to do in your assignment, but no matter how the plan is it is still a plan, once a plan is made put it into action. Make use of your time, tracking your time will help you work efficiently and effectively. 

श्री कृष्ण आचार्यको नाति 

बच्चादेखि नै पढाइमा ज्ञानी  

बन्यौ नेपालका आदिकवि  

 के भनूँ,म भानुभक्तको बारेमा। 

आदिकवि बनेर कमायौ  नाम 

गरेका छौ ,तिमीले राम्रो काम 

संस्कृत रामायणलाई  ल्यायौ नेपालीमा

के भनूँ, म भानुभक्तको बारेमा । 

सबैको हित होस् भनी 

लेखे, काव्य दिनरात नभनी 

अहो ! उनको कति छ, ख्याति 

साच्चै भानुभक्त रहेछौ, जाति 

के भनूँ, म भानुभक्तको बारेमा।  

तनहुँको चुँदी रम्घामा भयो , तिम्रो जन्म 

बस्यौ तिमी सबै नेपालीको मनमा  

गर्छन्, सबैले तिमीलाई मान-सम्मान

नहोस्, है तिम्रो कहिले अपमान  

के भनूँ,म भानुभक्तको बारेमा।

Epic game is a famous app that many users use to download many games in pc. They are now more famous for one of the world's most popular games, Fortnite. It is an American video game software development company. They have more than 100 types of games which are mostly only able to download by purchasing it. They also have one of the most popular games which were not created by them which are GTA V (Grand Theft Auto). It is popular for its graphics and a lot of possibilities. It can be played solo as well as online multiplayer. It also has a story mode where we have to complete missions for money, buy cars, guns, bases, etc. As I mentioned earlier Epic Games is also the creator of one of the world’s most famous video games, “Fortnite” it is a person vs person (PVP) game where we need to play “battle royale”. A “battle royale” is an all-out fighting style where there is more than one player to beat. We also need to find the weapons to fight others unless you want to kill them with a pickaxe but you will probably die if there is more than one player in the team and if the opponent has a gun. The pickaxe is also used to mine materials to build which has not been seen in any PVP game. There are three game modes in this game, one of them being creative mode; where we can build maps and play with friends, fly at will which includes “battle royale”. Overall I would say that epic games are an awesome place to buy and download games and is an impressive game software development company.

यो लेख पढ्नुभन्दा पहिले  म तपाईंसामु  एक प्रस्ताव राख्न चाहन्छु।  केवल केही  बेरसम्म माछाको बारेमा नसोच्नुस्  ।  जे हुन्छ, जसो हुन्छ, माछाको बारेमा सोच्दै नसोच्नुस्। के तपाईं  यो कार्य गर्न सक्नुहुन्छ ? कि तपाईंलाई अहिले मनमा माछाभन्दा अरू केही पनि आइरहेको छैन ? यदि तपाईंले माछाको बारेमा सोच्नुभयो भने तपाईं यो कसरी भयो , भनेर बसिरहेको हुनुहुन्छ होला । यो कुरा तपाईंलाई मात्र होइन, धेरै मानिसलाई हुने गर्दछ ।  

एक परीक्षणमा सहभागीहरूलाई यही भनिएको थियो । उनीहरूलाई शिक्षकले केही बेरका लागि “सेतो भालु” को बारेमा नसोच्नुहोस् भनेर भनेका थिए | उनीहरूले पनि सेतो भालुलाई आफ्नो मस्तिष्कबाट निकाल्न सक्षम भएनन् ।  उनीहरूले जति प्रयास गरे पनि उनीहरूको दिमागमा सेतो भालुले ठाउँ पायो । उनीहरूले आफू विभिन्न ठाउँमा रमाएको दृश्य पनि सोच्ने प्रयास गरे तर त्यति गर्दा पनि उनीहरूले सेतो भालुलाई वरिपरि देखे । 

अर्को उदाहरण हो,बेलायतीको राजाहरूको ।  धेरै समय बेलायतीहरूले  आलु मन पराउँदैनथे । बेलायत सरकारले आलुको क्षमता देखेका थिए र  बेलायती नागरिकलाई आलु रोप्ने र खाने आदेश दिए । यो आदेश सुनेर बेलायती नागरिकले आफ्नो गुनासो जनाए र भने, “आलुको न त बास्ना नै छ ; न स्वाद नै छ । कुकुरहरूले पनि आलु खान मान्दैनन् ।  यस्तो तरकारीले  हामीलाई के फाइदा हुन्छ ?” यो सुनेर राजा फ्रेड्रिक द ग्रेटले आलुको  उपयुक्त तरिकाले खेतीपाती गर्ने ठाउँ बनाए । उनले यो ठाउँमा चौबिसै घण्टा तैनाथ गार्डहरू राखे । राजाको यस्तो स्वभाव देखेर त्यहाँका मानिसहरू सशङ्कित भएर सोचे कि यहाँ के कुरा यस्तो मुल्यवान् छ होला कि त्यसलाई यस्तो सुरक्षा चाहिन्छ ? यो घटनापछि केही दिनमै आलुको कालो बजारी सुरू भएको थियो ।  चोरहरूले आलु फार्मबाट चोरेर बजारमा धेरै मूल्यमा बेच्दै थिए ।  फ्रेड्रिक द ग्रेटको योजना आश्चर्यजनक रूपमा सफल भएको थियो । हिजोसम्म स्वाद नभएको तरकारी रातारात सबैको बारीमा फल्न थाल्यो र मानिसहरू आफैँले यसको खेती गर्न थाले । कालो बजारी पनि हरायो ।     

यो भनेको रिभर्स साइकोलोजी अथवा उल्टो मनोविज्ञानको करतुत हो । हामी मानिसलाई जे नगर भन्यो, त्यही गर्न मन लाग्छ । उल्टो मनोविज्ञान भनेको कुनै व्यक्तिलाई चाहेको कुराको विपरीत भनेर कार्य गराउने प्रक्रिया हो । उल्टो मनोविज्ञान Reactants भन्ने सिद्धान्तको वरिपरि पर्छ । Reactants भनेको हाम्रो अधिकार छिनिने डर हो । जब हामीलाई अधिकार छिनिने डर हुन्छ, तब हामी त्यो परिदृश्यमा आफ्नो आधिकार फिर्ता ल्याउनका लागि मरिहत्ते गर्छौं । तपाईं अब सोच्दै हुनुहुन्छ होला, यस्तो कहाँ जीवनमा हुन्छ र ? धेरैजसो हाँस्य लेखमा रिभर्स साइकोलोजी  भेट्ने गरिन्छ । उल्टो मनोविज्ञानले स-साना बच्चाहरूमा धेरै काम गरेको देखिन्छ । हामीले बच्चाहरूलाई जस्तो, तरकारी खान लगायौं भने बच्चाहरूले त्यो तरकारी छुँदा पनि छुँदैनन् । तर उनीहरूलाई त्यो तरकारी खान नदिने हो भने एक्कासी उनीहरूको मन परिवर्तन हुन्छ र उनीहरू खान थाल्छन् ।

अन्त्यमा, उल्टो मनोविज्ञानले हाम्रो जीवनमा धेरै सकारात्मक कुराहरू गर्न सहयोग गर्दछ ।   उल्टो मनोविज्ञानको बारेमा अचम्मको कुरा यो हो कि हामीले यो प्रक्रियालाई सोचेभन्दा बढी प्रयोग गर्दछौँ । यो हामी अज्ञात रूपमा प्रयोग गरिरहेको हुन्छौँ । हामीले हाम्रै वरिपरि भएका साथीहरूको सोच बदल्न यो सरल प्रक्रियालाई प्रयोग गर्न सक्छौँ ।  आज धेरैजसो विज्ञापनहरूले यस सिद्धान्तलाई  प्रयोग गरेका छन् र सफल पनि भएका छन् ।

The lockdown began about 6 months ago in Nepal. In the beginning, my sister was already in our village. Our mom thought it was a good idea to send us to our village and stay there for a few weeks.  But because the lockdown began and we were in our village. We were in Ramechhap district which is where my mother was born.  My sister and I stayed there for 2 weeks and we went to Solukhumbu which is where my father’s house lies. In Ramechhap my only maternal grandparents used to live while in Solukhumbu only my grandfather used to live. Also, my grandfather used to live 45 minutes away from our main house at our sister’s house and only went there during the daytime to work. After we went to Solukhumbu our grandfather started living in our main house, where he used to work in the fields and municipality all day while my 3 elder sisters and I  had to work. All of us were of the same age so there was no problem between us.  We stayed there for about 15 days and returned to Ramechhap. We stayed in Ramechhap for another 13 days and again returned to Solukhumbu. It took about a day on foot to come back and forth. Finally after staying in the village for 2 months and learning the chores done in the village area my sister and I returned to Kathmandu. While in the village my eyes were completely at rest because there was no internet connection. After coming to Kathmandu our classes resumed. At that time, my mother wasn't used to opening a shop.  My sister and I used to distribute the house chores between us like we always did and managed our time. It was not difficult. After about 15 days or so my mother started to open the shop for a certain amount of time every day. The neighborhood would always be crowded and noisy. My brother had classes in the morning and we had in the evening. This way our chores were quite easy to manage. Then after a few more months, the lockdown was loosened a bit. At that time, we had a little problem managing time but it was still okay.  My sister and I also take turns in helping our mother in the shop. It is managed properly nowadays and I personally have no problems with this because it is our responsibility as well as not a burden.

अनलाइन कक्षा एउटा नयाँ अवधारणा हो । कोभिड १९ को कारणले विश्वका धेरै देशहरूले  अनलाइन कक्षा सुरू गरेका छन्। अनलाइन कक्षा केवल हाम्रो देशले  मात्र सुरू गरेको थिएन। कोभिड १९ को प्रकोप कहिलेसम्म रहने हो भन्ने निश्चित नभएर अनलाइन कक्षा सुरू भयो।  हामीले अझै कठिन समयको सामना गर्नुपर्ने हुन सक्छ भनेर अनलाइन कक्षाको अवधारणा स्थापना भएको हो। 

अनलाइन कक्षा सामान्य कक्षा जस्तै छन् । अनलाइन कक्षा लिएपछि हामीले परीक्षा पनि दिनुपर्छ।  परीक्षा भनेको हामीले पढेको विषयवस्तुको मूल्याङ्कन हो। यदि  परीक्षा नलिने हो भने सबै विद्यार्थीहरू अध्ययन गर्दैनन् ।  किनकि उनीहरू सोँच्दछन् कि हामी स्कुल गएर नै यो सबै पढ्नेछौं र परीक्षा पनि दिनेछौँ । त्यसैले हामीले अनलाइन पढेपछि अनलाइन परीक्षा पनि दिनुपर्छ । मैले बुझेँ कि यो समय भनेको शिक्षकहरूका लागि पनि  गाह्रो समय हो । हुन त यो सबैका लागि गाह्रो समय हो। यस समयमा पैसाको साथसाथै नयाँ कार्य र वातावरणमा यसलाई सुनिश्चित गर्न एकदम गाह्रो छ । विज्ञानले नयाँ नयाँ काम त गरिरहेको छ तर मोबाइल,ल्यापटप र कम्प्युटरमा बेला-बेलामा अनेक समस्याहरू आउँछन् । शिक्षकले पनि कसरी हामीलाई राम्ररी सिकाउने भनेर धेरै मिहिनेत गरिरहेका छन् । उनीहरू सबै समस्याहरूको सामना गर्दैछन् । विद्यार्थीलाई पनि गृहकार्य गर्न, पढ्न र अन्य काम गर्न गाह्रो भएको छ ।  

अनलाइन कक्षा र परीक्षामा हामीले धेरै समस्याहरूको सामना गर्नुपरेको छ । कक्षा समयमा बत्ती गयो भने हामी कक्षामा सहभागी हुन सक्दैनौँ । त्यस्तै इन्टरनेटको समस्या भयो भने पनि हाम्रो अनलाइन कक्षा र परीक्षा छुट्न सक्छ । अनलाइन कक्षा वैकल्पिक कक्षा भए पनि यसले हाम्राे सिकाइमा सहयाेग गरेकाे छ ।

What is the meaning of life? Why did God create us? Are we just a mistake made by God? Because if we think about it God is an all-powerful being that can create anything they want and if they created us to boost their ego then is there a meaning to our lives and why is God said to have animals as their carts but they want the same animal’s blood and if God is our parent then do you think a parent would want to see their children suffer? So if you think about it, if he is our so-called “parent” then why is every person born different why do some of their children suffer while others are happy? Why is there so much discrimination amongst their children? If we were not a mistake then why do “they” have to make the sun become bigger and eat our solar system just to make it explode and why did God give us knowledge for us to survive later on only to end ourselves. To me somehow the only myth that is believable about our creation is the Norse mythology because in this myth they say that a boy once lived alongside God and he was taxed with naming all the fruits and trees in the garden of God but soon he became lonely and asked God if there was another person like him then God created girls but the girl was soon tempted by a snake “who could talk” and wanted to eat the forbidden fruit which was in the middle of the garden which God said not to go near but the girl was tempted to do so and soon the girl was popularly known as “Eve” also tempted the boy “Adam” into eating the forbidden fruit (apple) and got the knowledge to almost equal of the gods. God found out of the heinous act and punished them by sending them to a place where they had to suffer for eternity which was located between hell and heaven or as we know as “Earth”.  

मेरो बाल्यकाल

बालापनको उमेर नै बाल्यकाल हो। बाल्यकालकाे उमेर अति रमाइलाे हुन्छ । आफ्नो बाल्यकाल सम्झँदा मेरो मन खुसीले भरिएर आउँछ। सानैदेखि नै आमाको काखमा हुर्केकी थिऍ । बाबा म जन्मिने बित्तिकै विदेश जानु भएको थियो । मेरो परिवार पनि एकदमै ठूलो थियो । 

आमाले सक्दो माया दिँदा पनि कतै न कतै मलाई बाबाको याद आइरन्थ्यो । जहिले पनि आमाको काखमा बस्ने बानी परेकी म एकैचोटी ३ वर्षकी भएपछि  विद्यालय जाँदा  म धेरै आत्तिएकी थिऍ । पछि दिन बित्दै जाँदा  विद्यालय जानु पनि कुनै ठूलो कुरा लागेन । विद्यालयमा मलाई दिन प्रतिदिन धेरै नयाँ कुराहरूको अनुभव  भैरहेको थियो । नयाँ नयाँ  साथीहरूको माझ सँगै खाजा खानु र सँगै पढ्नुको मज्जा छुटै थियो । शिक्षकहरूले  कहिले  काँही  खेल्न  लैजाँदा सबै को अनुहार मा छुट्टै खुसी  छाउँथ्यो । घरमा पनि बिहान बिहान बिद्यालय जाने  हतार हुन्थ्यो भने साँझ गृहकार्य सकाउनुको हतार । यो सब त  चल्थ्यो  नै तर मनभित्र बाबाको याद ले सताइहन्थ्यो। बाबासँग कहिले काँही  फोनमा कुरा हुन्थ्यो । म जहिले पनि बाबा अब छिट्टै घर फर्कनुहुन्छ भन्ने आशा बोकेर बस्थेँ । म ५ वर्षकी हुँदा बाबा आफ्नो छुट्टीमा घर आउनु भयो । सबै जना परिवार खुसी थियौं । म अलि बुझ्ने भएपछि फोनमा मात्रै कुरा गर्ने बाबालाई  पहिलो पटक आफ्नै अगाडि देख्दा निकै खुसी थिऍ ।

समय सधैँ एकनासको नहुँदो रहेछ। बाबाको बिदा पनि सकियो । फेरि बाबा हामीसँग टाढा हुने समय नजिक आउँदै थियो । म निराश थिऍ । सायद  म पहिलाभन्दा  अलि बुझ्ने भएर पनि  होला। बाबाको  बाध्यता  मैलै बुझें । यसरी नै मेरो बाल्यकाल बित्दै गयो । अहिले त ठुली भइ सकेकी छु। बाल्यकाल सम्झँदा एकछिन टोलाउने गर्छु ।

Suicide is the act of taking your own life. A suicide attempt is an effort to end your own life. The word suicide comes from two words “Sui” and “Cide.” Sui denotes oneself and cide is the act of killing something. Combined together, they form the word Suicide. Although suicide is known as killing oneself, accidents are not considered as suicides. A person should have the intent to kill themselves to consider death as a suicide. If someone kills themselves in a car accident, that is not a suicide, it is an accident. If someone kills themselves intentionally by crashing into something, it is considered a suicide.

According to SAVE (Suicide Awareness Voice of Education) Suicide is the 2nd leading cause for deaths in the age group of 15-24 years and nearly 800,000 people die by suicide each year and that accounts for roughly one death every year. 79% of the suicide occurred in low income generating countries, but it is a global problem.

If we look at the numbers alone, it is a huge problem in the context of the whole world. So why do people take their own lives and why at this high rate? The answer to this question is not universal. There can be many reasons why a person might commit suicide. Some of the reasons are cultural and religious beliefs, hopelessness, alcohol or drug abuse, mental illness such as depression. These are only a small amount of reasons as to why a person might consider taking their own life. The factors affecting suicide drastically differs from place to place. In very rural areas, suicide may not be a problem, but an honor that people crave for. We should know that a person doesn’t try to kill themselves after a bad day. It's a chain of reactions that leads to a sinister end. Depression is the word synonymous with suicidal thoughts. When a person is depressed, they have the tendency to keep themselves far away from their peers, which leaves them completely alone, which eliminates any chance of helping them before it’s too late. Ethnicity and background also come into play in the context of suicide. According to SAVE the people LGBTQIA+ community have much higher tendencies of attempting suicide at some point in their lives. A study found that 41% of transsexual adults (transitioning or fully transitioned) had attempted suicide at some point in their life. What comes as a surprise is that youngsters of the LGBTQIA+ community whose family don’t accept them are 8 times more likely to commit suicide. Imagine the pain, the horror, and the fear of being abandoned by your parents for being yourself.

So, how can we solve this problem? There can be no magical solution to this problem. The statistics show that people of the LGBTQIA+ community commit suicide a lot more than other people do. The reason behind this is the society not welcoming them as a normal member of the community. Being gay, or bisexual is not a person’s fault. It is who they are at the core. But the toxic environment they grow up in which dictates that only heterosexual relationships are legit and dismiss people of other sexual orientation labeling it as a sin, and, as a fact, if you or I were to be in that environment, we would share the same fate. The pressure from society is too hard to hold for these people.

We all are human beings. We are social creatures that cannot live without one another’s help. We should remember that all of us are the same and even we can have suicidal thoughts. When we get these kinds of thoughts, we as human beings, cannot think or take decisions properly. So the best thing to do when we do get these feelings is to refer to a friend or seek any kind of help. People should also not joke and laugh about these things. When a friend says they need help, the person should listen to them no matter what, or, provide them companionship and give them hope. Just listening quietly without any judgement can be quite helpful. Throw away your prejudices, do not dismiss their thoughts just because you have not dealt with them. Be empathetic, be kind. Treat mental health issues with just as much concern and attention you would for a physical injury. There are many organizations ready to help people who have suicidal thoughts. Many people think that when a person makes up their mind to attempt suicide, they can not be stopped. This is not true. A person who is suffering from hopelessness can always be brought back from that state.