The story dates back to 2018. It was December night, a cold and snowy night. I was warm in my coat and boots. I was returning home from my school. My friends had planned a birthday surprise for me. Everything was good. I remember vividly, it was 7:00 in the evening. The sun was already setting and the cold was starting to take its quick pace. A tall man started following me and before I knew it I was thrown into some corner. I screamed and cried and begged for him to stop. I still remember his face. The hideous face of a monster. A monster who was my uncle, my relative, a close person to my family who mercilessly forced himself into me, his 16-year-old niece. A monster who no matter how much I cried and screamed, raped me. And after he was finished he threatened to kill me if I told anyone what had happened. After a week of mental torture and keeping it inside me, I finally told my mum and dad everything that happened even though I was risking my life with it. I told her in hopes of getting help but I was wrong. I mean who would help a girl who had “dishonored” her family. 

I was hurt and I was angry. I was angry because it was not my fault a man who was a monster in disguise forced himself onto me. It was not my fault my body was too frail and weak to have stopped him. It was not my fault my saying no and begging for him to stop didn't actually make him stop. I was sad because it had happened to me. I was sad because no one would help me and I was sad because I was completely alone in the world. I had no one who would help me. And I am sad right now because I believed my mum. I believed her when she said I had brought shame upon the family. I used to question myself: am I even worthy to be someone’s friend? Because I believed it was my fault. Just like countless people who were trapped into thinking that it's their fault that people cannot think straight from their heads. I was enraged. I started rethinking everything. So I gathered the courage to go to the police. I told them everything that had happened that night to me. I even told them who the rapist was. But I was dismissed again. I was dismissed because I was a then 17-year-old. I was dismissed because I was a girl born into a patriarchal world and I was dismissed because my story was not worthy enough. I had no hopes. I had no wish to live. I couldn't live comfortably in a world where my rapist was roaming around freely, where the person who did that horrible thing to me could do it again, numerous times to other people.

So exactly two years later, on the same month of December, on the same chilly night wearing the same clothes I was wearing two years ago, I killed him. I killed my uncle. My clothes which were ripped apart by him two years ago are hanging on my shoulders. I had shot him with my dad’s rifle. My dad was a police officer. My dad, who had refused to help me two years ago. I killed his brother with his gun. And I felt happy, finally. 

As I am writing this story I am serving my years in jail. I told everything that happened to me in court but in the eyes of law, I was a murderer. I don't feel one bit of guilt for what I did. No one helped me when I begged for help. I took it into my own hands when the hurt grew too big. I wish this story was not mine but it is. And it is of countless other people. Other people who are rejected help, people who are seen as disgusting filth, who are asked what they were wearing when it happened and who are forced to keep it all to themselves. These stories exist because people like you and me ask the victims to dress properly and walk safely instead of teaching everyone how to behave like a decent human being.

यात्रा भनको कुनै पनि एक ठाउँबाट अर्को ठाउँमा जानु हो । यात्रा गर्दा रमाइलो हुन्छ । संसारमा हरेक मान्छेले आफ्नो जीवनमा कहीँ न कहीँ यात्रा गरेकै हुन्छ । तर मान्छेले गरेका यात्राहरूमध्ये  कुनै चाहिँ भुल्नै  नसकिने खालका पनि हुन्छन् । 

मैले पनि जीवनमा धेरै यात्राहरू गरेको छु । जसमध्ये  मेरो जीवनको सबैभन्दा रमाइलो यात्रा भनेको मा कक्षा ८ मा अध्यन गर्दाताकाको हाे । मेरा सबै सहपाठी साथीहरूसँग चितवन सौराहा गएको थिएँ । वि.सं. २०७६ साल ९ महिना १७ गते शुक्रबारको दिन म विद्यालयमा थिएँ मेरो त्यति बेला विज्ञान विषयको पढाइ भइरहेको थियो । अफिसबाट आएर एक जना शिक्षकले हामीलाई अर्को दिन चितवन सौराहा (चितवन रास्ट्रिय निकुञ्ज ) भ्रमण लागि लैजाने भनेर भन्नुभयो । त्यो दिन म र मेरा  सहपाठी साथीहरू एकदमै खुसी थियौँ । त्यो रात म र मेरा साथीहरू राम्ररी सुतेका पनि थिएनौ । हाम्रो मनमा एक किसिमको आनन्दको महसुस भइहेको थियो । हाम्रो त्यो रात यस्तै रमाइला  कुराको कल्पनामा बितिरहेको थियो । हेर्दाहेर्दै हाम्रो चितवन जाने दिन पनि सुरु भैसकेको थियो । म लगायत मेरा साथीहरू सबै हामी विद्यालयमा भेला भएर विद्यालयको गाडीमा बसेर यात्रा सुरु गर्यौँ । हामीहरू सबैजना एकदम रमाइलो गर्दै गाडीमा नाच्दै गाउँदै बाटो लागेका थियौँ । जाँदाजाँदै हामीले बाटोमा खाना खान गाडी धादिङ गएर रोकेका थियौँ अनि खाना खायौँ । त्यसपछि हामी फेरि गाडीमा बसेर बाटो लाग्याैँ। खाना खाएपछि हामीमा उत्साह थिएन । त्यसैले हामी गाडीमा आनन्दले २ घण्टाजति सुतेर चितवन पुगेका थियौँ । हामी चितवन पुगेर एउटा थारु जातिले बनाएको होम स्टेमा गएका थियौँ । हामीले हाम्रो सबै सामान त्यही छाडेर जिपमा बसेर जङ्गल सफारी गर्न गयौँ । त्यहाँ हामीले धेरै किसिमका जनावरहरू पनि देख्यौँ । हामीले सारै रमाइलो गर्दै जनावरहरू हेर्दै आइसक्रिम खाँदै फोटो खिच्दै जङ्गल भ्रमण गर्यौँ । त्यसपछि हामी जङ्गल सफारी सकेर हात्तीहरू भएको ठाउँमा गएर हात्तीहसँग रमायौँ । त्यसपछि हामी यता थारूजातिद्वारा निर्मित एउटा सङ्ग्रहालय गयौँ । सकेपछि हामी फर्केर हाम्रो होम स्टेमा आयौँ । आआफ्नो फोन चार्जमा राखेर इभिनिङ वाक गर्न हाम्रा गुरुहरूसँग खोला किनारमा गयाैँ । सधैँ काठमाडौँको धुलोमा हिँडेका हामीलाई  तराईको चिसो हावा खाँदा स्वर्गीय आनन्दको महसुस भैइहेको थियो । हामी इभिनिङ वाक सकेर फेरि होम स्टे फर्कियौँ र खाना खायौँ । खाना खाएर हामी चिसाे हावा खाँदै थियौँ । त्यही बेला उताबाट थारूजातिका महिलाहरू आएर हामी सबैलाई नमस्कार गरे । हामी अकमक्क पर्यौँ अनि भित्रबाट गुरुहरू आएर भन्नुभयो । उनीहरू हामीलाई थारु नृत्य देखाउन  आएका रहेछन् । गुरुहरूको कुरा सुनेर हामी सबैजना एकदम खुसी भयौँ र नृत्यको मनोरञ्जन लिन थल्यौँ । हामीलाई पनि उनीहरूले नाच्न आग्रह गरे । हामी पनि मज्जाले नाच्न थाल्यौँ । असाध्यै रमाइलो भयो । सायद म मेरो जीवनमा त्यो दिन सबैभन्दा बढी रमाएकाे दिन हाेला । फेरि त्यसरी सहपाठी साथीहरूसँग रमाउन पाउने छैन होला जस्ताे लाग्छ । त्यति सबै गरी सकेर हामी सुत्न भनी आआफ्नो कोठामा पस्यौँ । त्यतिबेला हाम्रो उमेर पनि उस्तै चकचक गर्ने थियाे । उमेर त्यस्तै भएर पो होकी हामी त्यो रात सुत्दै सुतेनौँ ।  रातभरि (पिल्लो फाइट ) मतलब तकियाले एक अर्कालाई हानाहान गरेर बस्यौँ । केही समयपछि हामी थाकेर कोठाबाहिर निस्केका मात्र के थियौँ कोठाका साथीलेहरूले एकजना सानो मान्छे, हुन त हाम्रै कक्षाकै हो ऊ पनि बच्चाजस्तो गर्थ्यो,डराउँथ्याे। ऊ ट्वाइलेट गएको बेला बत्ती निभाएर डराउन दिएछन् । बिचरा ऊ रुँदै  ट्वाइलेट बाहिर आयो । त्यसलाई हामीले धेरै फकायौँ ।  पेट मिचीमिची हाँस्यौँ पनि । हाम्रो त्यो रात त्यही त्यसरी नै बित्यो । 

अर्को दिन हामी बिहानै उठेर खाजासाजा खाएर समानहरू लिएर गाडीमा बस्यौँ । हामीलाई अब काठमाडौँ फर्किन्छौझैँ लागेको थियो तर गाडी त्यहाँबाट नवलपरासीतर्फ लाग्यो । हामी खुसीले झन् रमाउन  थाल्यौँ । हामी त्यताबाट सिजी धामतिर लाग्यौँ । सिजी धाम पुगेर हामीले फोटाहरू खिच्यौँ घुम्यौँ अनि धेरै रमाइलो गर्यौँ । घुमिसकेपछि हामी काठमाडौँ फर्किन थाल्याैँ । मलगायत साथीहरूलाई घर आउन मन लागेकै थिएन । तर क गर्नु आफ्नो घर नआइ नहुने । हामी सबै आआफ्नो घर आयौँ । 

मेरो जीवनको सबैभन्दा रमाइलो यात्रा यसरी सकिएको थियो । मेरो जीवनमाजस्तै सबै मानिसको जीवनमा पनि कुनै न कुनै त्यस्तो यात्रा अरूकाे पनि हाेला । जसलाई मानिसले जति नै सुकै ठुलो मान्छे भए पनि कहिल्यै भुल्न सक्दैन । म त झन् के भुल्थेँ र मेरो जीवनको सबैभन्दा रमाइलो पल । अहिले ती दिनहरू सम्झिँदा पनि आकाशमा ती दिनहरूमा फेरी फर्केर जान सक्ने भए ……….सोच आउँछ ।

When it comes to reading a book, a frequent state of confusion and uncertainty of choosing the genre of book is something everyone must have faced at least once. One of them which heavily stands out is choosing whether to read a fictional or non-fiction book. Both genres have their own forte and speciality that is unique and varies to each reader. Personally I prefer fiction over non-fiction books.

Yes, the non-fiction books have their own benefits of helping improve the readers' perspective to things, provide various knowledge on history, motivate the readers to achieve something in life, get inspired by someone, understand one’s struggle and sympathize with them, which is something really commendable. Some non-fiction books like ‘Ikigai’ has helped many to find their own purpose in life and its longevity, ‘Cancer currey and me’ has given many cancer patients a new perspective in life, how books like ‘Becoming’ helped many know better about one’s struggles in life or how books like ‘Boy’ provided a completely different experience to an autobiography.  However, fictional books hold a special meaning that I personally feel lacks most of the time just as in a nonfiction one. People might consider fictional books as something completely illogical, mere fantasy entertainment and nothing more, but I strongly differ from these opinions. Fictional books tend to help one increase their imagination and think out of the box. While the non-fictional books are factual and something that has happened somewhere, to someone where we can’put forward our creativeness. Fictional books gives the reader an experience of a complete new world, unknown to them and tag along with the characters. Reading fictional books helps one develop their own version of ending if they are not satisfied with the one they just read; however it is not possible for a non-fictional one and that it constrains the imaginative capacity of readers. The plotline of nonfiction heavily tends to revolve around positivity, motivation and happy endings that could sometimes be monotonous while some fictional ones can leave one emotionally scarred due to the ending of the story. Similarly, reading fictional books helps us understand and accept various characters we come across that can surprisingly increase our social and communicative skills. It ultimately benefits by helping one fit in a social circle and work as a team and increases the sense of inclusiveness. I strongly believe that reading fictional books helps one see the bigger picture. Not that non-fiction books limit or narrow one’s view; however, comparatively fictional books help us explore various aspects a lot more and give us a better understanding. An example of the best fictional book I’ve read that defies any stereotypical viewpoint of fictional books as mere entertainment is ‘The midnight library’ where it connects the reader to character, motivates them, is very emotional, explores an unknown world yet leaves the reader stunned and with a positive outlook to their life.

My thoughts can heavily be biased and influenced by the number and genre of books I’ve read, however I strongly prefer fictional books over non-fictional ones.

एस.इ.इ. परीक्षा भनेको विद्यालय तहमा  दिइने कक्षा १० काे अन्तिम परीक्षा हो । यो परीक्षालाई धेरै महत्त्वपूर्ण रूपमा लिइन्छ । याे परीक्षालाई विद्यार्थीहरूको जीवनको फलामे ढोका पनि भन्ने गरिएकाे छ । 

मैले पनि गत वर्षकाे एस.इ.इ. परीक्षा वैशाख महिनामा दिएको हुँ । एस.इ.इ मा मैले अनुभव गरेका कुराहरू बताउन गइरहेको छु । दुई महिना पहिले म  एस.इ.इ परीक्षाको लागी तयारी गरिरहेको थिएँ । पहिलो पटक यस्ताे परीक्षा दिन लागेको भएर होला मलाई निकै डर लागिरहेको थियो। 

त्यसमाथि झन् कोरोनाले  गर्दा पनि हाम्रो कोर्स ढिला भएकाले हाम्रो पुनरावृत्ति हुन राम्ररी पाएन । थोरै समय मात्रै भयाे । त्यकारण हामी निकै तनावमा थियौँ । यस्तो समयमा हामीलाई हाम्रा गुरुबाहरूले एस.इ.इ. परीक्षामा पढाएकै कुराहरू आउँछ । आत्तिनु पर्दैन भनेर प्रोत्साहन गर्नु हुन्थ्याे । थोरै समयका लागि भए पनि पुनरावृत्ति भएको थियो ।  परीक्षालाई मध्यनजर गर्दै म पनि टुप्पी कसेर पढिरहेको थिएँ । त्यसपछि परीक्षाको समय आयो । परीक्षा सुरु हुनभन्दा अगाडि हाम्रो दुई दिन बिदा थियो । त्यतिबेला मैले सबै पढाएका कुराहरूलाई  मज्जाले पढेँ । परीक्षाको दिन पनि आयो । म धेरै नै डराइरहेको थिएँ । हाम्रो सेन्टर पनि विद्यालयबाट टाढा रहेछ । हामी विद्यालयमा बिहानै गयौँ र त्यहाँ हामीलाई गुरुबा गुरुआमाहरूले टिका लगाइदिनुभयाे । परीक्षामा राम्रो अङ्क ल्याउन आशीर्वाद दिनुभयो। 

हाम्रो पहिलो दिनकाे परीक्षा अङ्ग्रेजी विषयको थियो । अङ्ग्रेजी विषयको परीक्षा धेरै राम्रो  भयो । पहिलो परीक्षा सकिएपछि एक दिन बिदा थियो । बिदापछि गणितको परीक्षा हुने भएकाले त्यो एक दिन बिदामा मैले खुब पढेर बसेँ । त्यती धेरै अभ्यास गर्दा पनि मलाई अझै पनि डर लागिरहेको थियो । कही कतै गारो प्रश्न त आउने हैन ?भन्ने प्रश्नहरू मेरा दिमागमा खेलिरहेका थिए । तर 

प्रश्न हेर्दा त्यति गारो थिएन । पाँच अङ्कका प्रश्न भने अलिकति गाराे र हल गर्न एकछिन सोच्नु नै पर्ने खालका थिए । मैले सबै प्रश्नहरूकाे राम्ररी उत्तर लेखेँ । ए ग्रेड आउँछ जस्तो पनि लग्यो । त्यसपछि नेपाली र विज्ञान विषयकाे परीक्षा कहिले सकियाे थाहा नै भएन । सामाजिक विषयको पनि मैले राम्ररी लेखेर आएँ । कम्प्युटर र हेल्थको प्रश्न्न पनि सारै सजिला थिए। एउटा अप्सनल म्याथकाे पनि गारो प्रश्न आउला जस्तो लाग्याथ्यो तर त्यसको पनि सोचेको भन्दा सजिलै प्रश्नहरू आए । 

यसरी नै मैले मेरो एस.इ.इ. परीक्षा दिएँ। 

मेरो .परीक्षा चाहिँ राम्रै भएको छ। अहिले एस.इ.इ. परीक्षाको परिणाम प्रकाशित भएकाे त छैन तर मेरो ए प्लस ग्रेड आउला भन्ने मैले आश गरेको छु । 

Perfectionism is a personality trait that strives for flawlessness in any activity or occurrence they observe. People often mistake perfectionism as a psychological disorder but it is rather related with mental health issues and anxiety. While being a perfectionist a person who has perfectionism seems good to be perfect and have perfect things surrounding them but it is quite opposite than that of people’s mindsets, being a perfectionist is rather difficult, frustrating and it can put a heavy burden on your mental health. Perfectionist people always want everything to be perfect but it is rather impossible not everything is perfect. You cannot have the world revolve around yourselves. It sounds absurd but that is what being a perfectionist is.

While rather disturbing as it sounds it is not their fault being a perfectionist it is the effect of their friend circle, their family and the society they live in and on which they were brought up in. If you are wondering whether you are a perfectionist or not it is highly likely that you are a perfectionist too. Everyone is a perfectionist not on the extreme level because it varies from person to person. It is a fact that everyone has some sort of perfectionist traits and it is impossible to not have any. Having a feeling to achieve something or win something itself is a sort of trait of perfectionism or rather win or nothing is a trait of perfectionism.

Perfectionist people want to be like the high achieving people but they are quite different from each other. Perfectionists are fearful, have low self-esteem and they are concerned about failure. These traits can affect the lifestyle of the people and hold back their ability to reach greater heights, achieve their goals. Not everything is perfect but perfect is also imperfect itself because it varies from person to person because perfection does not exist physically. Perfection is based on a person’s perspective. Perspective itself can vary the definition of the term perfect from person to person. Something perfect in your perspective can be different in the other person’s perspective.

 Low self-esteem, All or nothing mentality, fear of failure, Pushy towards peers are some traits that are found in perfectionists. Perfectionists point out mistakes and something that seems imperfect in their perspective which can annoy some people and in some cases their peers may start to avoid them. Since their low self-esteem being avoided may make them feel lonely and have anxiety which can cause other mental issues or degrade their mental health.

In the context of Nepal mental health is not regarded as a serious issue, but it is coming in the eyes of the public. People are getting aware day by day and we may be able to alert the people about these issues and we can help the people suffering from it.

मेरी बुढी अजीको नाम  सुक कुमारी श्रेष्ठ हो । उहाँ तनहुँको  एउटा गाउँमा धेरै वर्ष अगाडि जन्मनुभएकाे हाे। उहाँ सानो छदै बिहे उहाँकाे बिहे भएकाे हाे । उहाँ मेरी आमाकी आमा मेरी जिजु हजुरआमा  हुनुहुन्छ । उहाँ अहिले ९४  वर्षकी हुनुभयाे । उहाँका दुई वटा छोरीहरू हनुहुन्छ । ऋषि पिया  र कुसुम मल्ल । कुसुम अजी चाहिँ मेरो अजी हो । उहाँकाे पतिको नाम धीरभक्त श्रेष्ठ हाे । बुढी अजीले बुढा अजासँग  नेपाल र  भारत भ्रमण गर्नुभएकाे छ ।  कुसुम अजी चाहिँ भारतमा हुँदा जन्मिनुभएको थियो ।

बुढी अजी र बुढा अजा केही समयसम्म  बन्दिपुरमै बस्नुभयो । त्यसपछि उहाँहरू दुवै जना नारायणगढमा बसाइ सर्नुभयो । बुढा अजा विश्वयुद्ध  लड्न पनि जानुभएकाे थियाे रे । त्यतिबेला विश्वयुद्ध लड्न गुरुङ ,मगर आदि जातका मानिस जान्थे रे तर नेवारहरू विश्वयुद्ध लड्न जाँदैनथे । उहाँ आफ्नो नाम फेरेर  विश्वयुद्धमा जानुभएछ । उहाँ म्यान्मारमा खटिनुभएकाे रहेछ ।

एक दिन युद्धको समयमा बुढा अजा र उहाँका साथीहरू खाडलमा रहेछन् ।  त्यही रात युद्ध हुन्छ होला भनेर   उहाँ र उहाँका केही साथीहरू खाडलबाट  निस्केर गएछन् । तर उहाँको एउटा साथी खाडलमै छुटेछन् । उहाँकाे एउटा साथी त्यही खाडलमा परेर उसको मृत्य भएछ । बुढा अजा विश्वयुद्ध लडेर फर्किदा उहाँकाे देब्रे खुट्टामा गोलीको चोट थियो । याे सबै कुरा मलाई बुढी अजी र मामुले भन्नुभएको थियो । बुढा अजाले  वि . सं. २०५८ मा यो धर्तीं छोडेर जानुभएको थियो ।

बुढा अजाले दोस्रो विवाह पनि गर्नुभएकाे थियाे । दोस्रो विवाहपछि बुढी अजी र बुढा अजा छुट्टै  घरमा बस्न थाल्नुभयाे । बुढी अजी सानो घरमा त्यसपछि उहाँ अहिले पनि तगडा हुनुहुन्छ । उहाँ निकै मिहनेती हुनुहुन्छ । अहिले पनि उहाँकाे घर जादा एकदम चिटक्क हुनुहुन्छ । उहाँ  अहिले नारायणगढमै बस्नुहुन्छ। मैले  बुढी अजीलाई  पछिल्लाे पटक यो बर्षको वैशाख महिनामा भेटेकी थिएँ । 

शिक्षा शब्दको अर्थ सिक्नु, ज्ञान आर्जन गर्नु वा अध्ययन गर्नु हो। शिक्षा विशेष गरी विद्यालय वा विश्वविद्यालयमा व्यवस्थित निर्देशन प्राप्त गर्ने वा दिने प्रक्रिया हो । शिक्षा भनेको ज्ञान, सीप, मूल्य, नैतिकता, विश्वास र बानीको प्राप्तिलाई सहज बनाउने प्रक्रिया हो । शैक्षिक विधिमा शिक्षण, तालिम, कथावाचन, छलफल र निर्देशित अनुसन्धान समावेश छ । 

जीवनमा शिक्षाको महत्त्व अथाह छ । यसले मानिसहरूलाई जीवनभर गुणस्तरीय शिक्षा दिन मदत गर्छ। शिक्षाले ज्ञान, विश्वास, सीप, मूल्यमान्यता र नैतिक बानीहरू विकास गर्छ। यसले जीवनस्तर उकास्नुका साथै व्यक्तिविशेषको सामाजिक तथा आर्थिक स्थितिलाई बढाउँछ। शिक्षाले जीवनलाई सुमधुर र शान्त बनाउँछ । शिक्षा भनेको आर्थिक सम्पति, सामाजिक समृद्धि र राजनीतिक स्थिरता ल्याउने समाजको जग हो । यसले मानिसहरूलाई आफ्नो दृष्टिकोण राख्न र आफ्नो क्षमता प्रदर्शन गर्न शक्ति प्रदान गर्छ। यसले नागरिकलाई शासन प्रक्रियामा सहभागी हुने साधन उपलब्ध गराएर लोकतन्त्रलाई बलियो बनाउँछ । यसले सामाजिक एकता र राष्ट्रिय पहिचान बढाउन एकीकृत शक्तिको रूपमा काम गर्छ।यसले मानिसहरूलाई शक्तिशाली बनाउनुका साथै जीवनका चुनौतीहरू सामना गर्न तयार बनाउछ। 

शिक्षा सफलताको ढोका हो। यस्तो प्रतिस्पर्धात्मक संसारमा सबैले राम्रो शिक्षा हासिल गर्नै पर्छ । राम्रो जागिर र पद प्राप्त गर्न उच्च शिक्षाको महत्त्व बढेको छ। उचित शिक्षाले भविष्यमा अघि बढ्ने थुप्रै तरिकाहरू सृजना गर्छ। यसले हामीलाई मानसिक, सामाजिक र बौद्धिक रूपमा बलियो बनाउँछ । यसले हाम्रो ज्ञानस्तर, प्राविधिक सीप र जागिरमा राम्रो स्थान बढाउँदै जान्छ । प्रत्येक बच्चाको जीवनमा केही फरक गर्ने आफ्नै सपना हुन्छ र यो सपना राम्रो शिक्षाले मात्र पुरा हुनसक्छ।  यसबाहेक, शिक्षाले  जीवनबारे हाम्रो धारणामा परिवर्तन ल्याउँछ र यसलाई अझ राम्रो बनाउँछ।

शिक्षाले नै मानिसलाई सुख-सभ्यता र  ऎश्वोर्य प्रधान गर्छ। शिक्षाले मानिसको जीवनको गुणस्तर निर्धारण गर्छ। शिक्षाले ज्ञान, सीपमा सुधार गर्छ र व्यक्तित्व र मनोवृत्ति विकास गर्छ। शिक्षित मानिसहरूले देशको स्वस्थ खम्बा बनाउँछन् र भविष्यमा यसलाई अगाडि बढाउछन्। त्यसैले, शिक्षा भनेको जीवन, समाज र राष्ट्रमा असम्भव हरेक कुरालाई सम्भव तुल्याउने साधन हो।

Freedom of speech is a right of principle that supports an individual or community's right to express their thoughts freely. But having the right to speech does not mean that an individual can be offensive to other people. While using your right to speech one must not violate other rights.

These days due to access to different social media, the boundaries of the right to speech have been blurry. The faster and cheaper access to communication has made it easy to abuse such rights. If we explore the social media pages we can find many people and communities being offensive to other groups of people without having any consequences. Many people attack other people by being anonymous on social media. This has encouraged many people to abuse their right to free speech. 

We can see people trying to destroy other people's image by spreading false information about them.  People also post other people’s pictures without their consent. Doing so has been normal these days due to the excess use of social media. If someone tries to call out someone for being offensive these days, they themselves get called out for not letting them use their freedom of speech. 

People need to learn the difference between expressing their thoughts and ideas and being offensive to people. And being anonymous on social media does not mean you can say whatever you want without facing any consequences. 

Scarlet heart ryeo: Moon lover 

Genre: historical, romance, fantasy, melodrama, time travel Starring: Lee Joon-gi, Lee Ji-eun, Kang Ha-neul, Kim Ji-Soo, Byun baekhyun (EXO), Kang Ha-neul, Kim San-ho, Hong Jong-hyun, Yoon Sun-woo, Nam Joo-hyuk. 

Country of origin: South Korea 

Original language: Korean 

Writer: Tong Hua (novel), Jo Yoon-Young 

No. of episodes: 20 + 2 special episodes 

Release Date: August 29, 2016 

Finished Date: November 1, 2016 

A 25 years old lovely woman named Go Ha Jin who lives in the 21st century was betrayed by her boyfriend and bestfriend. While sitting by the Cheonjuho lake drinking soju (Korean alcohol), a beggar kept looking at her while she was drinking. She offers him her Soju and then starts ranting about how unfair her life is. The beggar then said “What if you die and come to life again?”. Then she saw a kid who was close to drowning and had the urge to save him but while saving him she couldn’t save herself and drowned. An eclipse suddenly happened and Ha Jin woke up to a traditional Goryeo Korea(941 A.D) and is part of the cousin of the 8th Prince Wang Wook’s wife and her new name is Hae Soo. 

She finally knows that she was surrounded by some royal princes of the Wang family when king Taejo still reigns the era. And the beggar she met in the 21st century was the king’s astronomer and crown prince friend. At first, she falls deeply for Wang Wook, the 8th prince with a gentle personality but because he was husband of her cousin, she didn’t advance her feelings further as a sign of respect. However, it wasn’t long before her feelings spilled all over the place, and her cousin caught them. One day the 4th prince Wang So returned to the palace while he was on his way. He met Hae Soo on the market but Hae Soo had a bad experience when she first met him. The fearsome 4th Prince, who hides his face behind a mask and is given the derogatory label of "wolf-dog". She was easily smitten, especially when Wang Wook showed her extra attention and care. When the cousin was going to die she told Wook’s mother to let them marry. After her cousin’s death, they both started smoothing their way into a romantic relationship.Little by little she gets to get in ‘love pentagon’ at least with 4 princes. Hae Soo ends up becoming romantically involved with some of the princes and finds herself entangled in a web of politics and the prince’s fight for the throne. Hae Soo finds herself unwittingly caught up in the palace politics and the rivalry among the princes, as they fight for the throne. Then she slowly loses the relationship with Wang Wook.Later Wang Wook didn’t have the courage to stand up and defend Hae Soo and just abandon her like that. But later, she develops a relationship with Wang So, the 4th prince. Wang So is known for his deprivation of a mother’s love and because of that, he’d cling on to any person who is nice to him. The first person who was actually nice to him when he returned to the royal palace was Hae Soo. However, Hae Soo needed to be nice to him because he is a prince and then because he was so engrossed with the idea of Hae Soo loving him, he forced her to choose him over Wang Wook and everything she does needs his permission . He took his chance to claim Hae Soo when Wang Wook wronged her out and betrayed her. 

Wang So brother Wang Yo who was clever, cruel and ambitious whose eyes were on the throne. So, he tried to kill the crown prince Wang Mu. Wang Mu who treats everyone, even those of lower status kindly. He was suffering from a skin condition called eczema. Wang Yo poisoned(mercury) the medicine used while bathing. Soon to be King Wang, Yo gives two choices to Wang So that Hae Soo has to leave Goryeo or he has to die with Hae Soo. Wang Yo stares at him intensely, never wavering in his gaze and his demand for unconditional loyalty to him. But Wang So can’t find a way out of this trap. He throws his sword down. He goes to his knees. He offers his support to Wang Yo, the new King. He can barely utter the words but he wishes his brother a long life. Hae Soo stares at Wang So in horror knowing that he had no choice. Ji Mong remembers a time when he was a young adult, the Crown Prince was a young adult, and Wang So was a young boy. He assured the Crown Prince that he would become King. He did tell his friend that his lifeline wasn’t long. The Crown Prince told Ji Mong that it didn’t matter if his life wasn’t long, it only mattered who he spent his last days with. Wang So pipes up and says that he wants to be king one day too. Both men laughed and called him your Majesty. 

Ji Mong looks at the king’s lifeless body lying on the ground. Thirteenth Prince Baek Ah and fourteenth Prince Wang Jung rush up and see their dead brother on the floor. Ji Mong wants to know why the king isn’t getting the respect and death he deserves. Hae Soo stands and looks at Wang So who sheds a tear. In a dull voice she says that all this happened because of her. She apologizes to Wang So. Not liking what he’s seeing, Wang So drags Hae Soo out of the room. They run into ninth Prince Wang Won (Yoon Sun Woo) who warns them that the new King will declare Hae Soo to be the woman that poisoned the former King. Hae Soo grips Wang So’s hand tightly. Wang Yo orders Wang So to catch and kill Wang Eun. Wang So refuses. Wang Yo smiles, and says he’ll only keep Wang So’s “people”(Ji Mong, Baek Ah, and Hae Soo) safe if Wang So obeys his order. He calls Wang Yo a dog that follows. Wang So tells Ji mong to be alert of Wang Yo’s Guard. 

The other day Wang Yo finds where they were and sends a guard and tells them to kill them. Duk tells Wang Eun to go with Hae Soo. She assures her husband she won’t be hurt because she’s the General’s daughter. Wang Eun doesn’t want to separate. She promises to follow him soon. She gives Hae Soo the look that says take care of the man I love. She runs toward the fight and potentially her own death. Hae Soo tries to lead Wang Eun away but he stops. He tells Hae Soo that he belongs to his wife. He can’t desert her. He goes to join his wife. She sees a vision of their death. After grieving over the 10th Prince and Soon-Deok, Hae-Soo meets with the 4th Prince. She’s concerned for him knowing the painful choice he made to kill the 10th Prince. But the 4th Prince accuses her of not trusting him and blames her for the 10th Prince’s death. He says he doesn’t love her anymore.Queen Sinmyeongsunseong rushes in to declare that So's leading a revolt. She pleads with her son to put it to paper that he'll abdicate the throne to Jung, since they can't lose the throne. 

A tear runs down his face as Wang So declares he will finally become her favorite son. He tells her she's living his revenge because she threw him away. She reaches for his scar, gasps, and dies. Wang So is shocked.Yeon-Hwa wants Wang-wook to pressure and asks his hand in marriage from the Hwang boo clan, the 2nd Queen family. So that Yeon-Hwa will become the queen. The King orders everyone to be killed who doubt abdication and people surrounding the ex-King. This really frightens ji-mong. To Hae-Soo, he reveals that it was blank as no one's name is written on it. General leaves the royals which altogether disturbs the mighty Wang-So. He understood it is difficult when you sit on the throne. However, Hae-Soo is always there to pacify her. A royal physician examines Hae-Soo and tells her that her life won’t last long as she had heart problems and she may not able to walk as it were left untreated when she was tortured. Hae-Soo but wants to live more with him. Jung asks her to say if she ever feels suffocated in palace life. Wang wook asks his hand for marriage to Yeon-Hwa as it would strengthen his ties. The King refuses it by clearly stating that she has another woman in his life. Wang Wook intervenes and reminds him that a woman with scar in her body cannot marry the king. 

Hae-Soo is saddened, thinking that the King no longer loves her. Hae-Soo pleads with the 14th Prince to protect her daughter and keep her away from palace life. She peacefully dies in the 14th Prince's arms while sitting in the garden. Then she came to her real life and The drama ends showing Go Ha-Jin looking at a portrait of Wang So at a gallery and remembering the man she fell in love with.She tears up as all her memories from the past return. She went through all the pain only to end up alone, while Wang So also died a lonely death after his reign. 

न त घर छ, न त एक गासको टुंगो 

न नाम छ, न थर, म त केवल एक सडकको ढुङ्गो।  

थाहा छैन कुन जन्मको पाप भोग्नु पर्यो,

आमाबाबु त छैनन् येसैले वास्तविकता मान्नुपर्यो।  

म पनि मानिस नै हु भोक, तिर्खा, जाडो लाग्छ,

तर वास्तविकता यो पीडालाई

मैले लागुपदार्थको माध्यमबाट मेत्नुपर्छा

विद्यार्थी जीवन देखेर मलाई पनि पढ्न मन लग्छ,

तर येही पापी पेट पाल्न बोरा बोकी हिद्द्नै पर्छ।

सडकछाप भएर जन्ममा मेरो के गल्ति भयो,

माया, दया त पाइन मैले तर जीवनमा हेला मात्र रहयो।  

सडकछाप होइन तर यो समाजले येही नाम दियो,

मानिस भएर पनि परजिवीको जस्तै जीवन बाच्न बाध्य बनायो।  

खोजि हिड्छन् सुख मानिस जीवनभर भने त्यो सुख कहाँ छ,

अरुको उपकार गरेर खुशी प्राप्त गर्नमा सुखको छुट्टै मजा छ ।  

आफु बाचेर अरुलाई मर्न दिने यो कस्तो धर्म हो,

आफु बाचेर आरुलाई बचाउनु, असली धर्म हो।

'दुःख' र 'सुख' एक अर्काका सहयोगी साथी हुन् । दुःख  शब्दले मानवमनमा उत्पन्न हुने पीडा, कष्ट, कठिनाइ आदि भावलाई जनाउँछ भने ठीक विपरीत आनन्द, सहज-सन्तोषजन्य सुगम र अप्ठ्यारो परिस्थितिजन्य भाव व्यक्त गर्दछ । सुख शब्दले अवस्थालाई सङ्केत गर्दछ । मन मानवशरीरको एक यस्तो संवेदनशील अङ्ग हो जसले नजिकको परिवेशअनुसार आफूमा अन्तर्निहित भावसागरमा मानवलाई चुर्लुम्मै डुबाउन सक्छ । मानिसको जीवन सधैँ सरल रेखामा हिँडेको हुँदैन । उसले कुनै दिन दुःखका मरुभूमिमा छटपटाउनुपर्छ र कुनै दिन खुसीयालीको महासागरमा डुबुल्की लगाउने सौभाग्य पनि हासिल गरेको हुन्छ वास्तवमा जीवनको आनन्द यिनै विपरीत भावविशेषका अनुभवमा नै लुकेको हुन्छ । 

दुःख र सुख यी दुई शब्दले पनि जीवनका गम्भीर र संवेदनशील भाव अभिव्यक्त गर्दछन् । दुःख शब्दले जीवनका जटिलता, समस्यापूर्ण परिस्थिति र कठिनाइपूर्ण अवस्थालाई झल्काउँछ । क्रियाशील जीवनका प्रत्येक क्षणहरू दुःखमा रुमल्लिएका हुन्छन् । पसिना काढेर गरिने परिश्रममा दुःख नै लुकेको हुन्छ । गन्तव्यमा पुग्न कहाँ सहज हुन्छ र ? किसानले खेतमा काम गर्दाका कठिन परिस्थितिले दुःखकै सम्झना गराउँछन् । उसको खेतीलाई प्राकृतिक प्रकोपले सखाप पारी वर्षदिन खाने अन्न नष्ट गरेको अवस्थालाई कसैले सुख भन्न सक्तैन । कुनै व्यापारीले व्यापारमा गरेको लगानी डुबिरहेको अवस्था र उद्योगपतिले आफ्नो औद्योगिक प्रतिष्ठान बन्द गर्दाको स्थिति पनि दुःखपूर्ण अवस्थाकै दृष्टान्त हुन् । सफलताका सिँढीहरू चढ्दाका सबै अवस्था दुःख र सङ्कटबाट टाढा हुदैनन् । यसको ठीक विपरीत सुख शब्दले जीवनको खुसीलाई व्यक्त गर्दछ । मानिसले जब कुनै कार्यमा आफू सफल बनेको देख्छ तब ऊ सुखको सङ्गीत सुसेल्न थाल्छ । सुखका घडीमा उसले आफ्नो समय र श्रम सार्थक बनेको अनुभव गर्दछ । खेतमा काम गर्ने किसानलाई आफ्नो उत्पादन भण्डारन गर्दाको क्षण कम आनन्दपूर्ण हुँदैन । व्यापारीले आफ्नो व्यापारलाई अग्रसर गराउँदा होस् तथा उद्योगपतिले आफ्नो उद्योगको उत्पादनले राष्ट्रिय तथा अन्तरराष्ट्रिय बजारमा ख्याति आर्जन गर्दाको अवस्था होस् सुखदायक नै रहन्छन् । मानिसले गर्ने परिश्रमको गन्तव्यस्थल नै सफलता हो र सफलता नै खुसी, प्रसन्नता वा सुखको प्रतीक पनि हो ।

दुःख र सुख विपरीतार्थक शब्द हुँदाहुँदै यी दुई शब्दको अर्थगत सुसम्बन्ध पनि रहिआएको पाइन्छ । दुःखपूर्ण परिस्थितिको अन्त्यपछि मात्र मानिसले सुखको अनुभव गर्न सक्छ । मानवजीवनमा यी दुई भाववाचक नाम शब्द कुमालेको चक्र घुमेझैँ निरन्तर रूपमा घुमिरहन्छन् । यिनले जीवनका अपरिहार्य तथा शाश्वत पक्षलाई झल्काइरहेका हुन्छन् । मानिस दुःखको भुमरीमा पर्दा सारा संसार आफ्नो विपरीत बिन्दुमा उभिएर आफैँलाई गिज्याइरहेको देख्तछ । यसको विपरीत सुखपूर्ण अवस्थामा रहँदा संसारका यावत् विषय उसको सुखमा मुस्कुराइरहेका र सम्पूर्ण सृष्टिले आनन्दको वर्षा गरिरहेझैँ अनुभव गर्दछ । परिश्रम गर्दा अवश्य दुःख हुन्छ तर परिणाम हासिल हुँदा अपार आनन्दको अनुभव हुन्छ । खेती गर्दा किसान दुःखी बन्छ, उसको शरीरबाट पसिनाका धारा तरतरी चुहुन्छन् तर धान, मकै, गहुँ, तरकारी, फलफूल आदिले आफ्नो आर्थिक अवस्था सुदृढ बन्दा उसमा खुसीको सीमा नै हुँदैन । यसबाहेक यी दुई शब्दले दिन-रात, घाम-छायाँ, उज्यालो-अँध्यारो, उकाली ओराली, उन्नति-अवनति, अनुकूल-प्रतिकूल पक्ष-प्रतिपक्ष, शिशिर वसन्तजस्ता परस्पर विपरीतधर्मी भाव, प्रवृत्ति अवस्था वा विशेषतालाई पनि झल्काएकै हुन्छन् ।

भ्रष्टाचार भन्नाले गैरकानूनी घूसलाई बुझाउँछ जुन कसैलाई केहि गर्न को लागी दिइन्छ। यो दण्डनीय अपराध हो । घुसखोरी भनेर चिनिने कुनै पनि घुस दिनु र लिनु कानूनद्वारा निषेधित छ। इमान्दार र कर्तव्यनिष्ठ भए पदाधिकारी र नेताले घुस लिन पाउँदैनन् । त्यसैले भ्रष्टाचार भन्नाले अवैधानिकता, लापरवाही, इमान्दारिता र इमान्दारिताको अभावलाई जनाउँछ। नेपालमा धेरैजसो सरकारी अधिकारी र नेताहरु भ्रष्टाचारमा संलग्न रहेको पाइएको छ । तिनीहरूले आफ्नो पदको दुरुपयोग गर्छन् - अरूलाई प्रभाव पार्ने शक्ति। इमान्दार र इमान्दार भएनन् भने भ्रष्टाचारमा संलग्न हुन सक्छन् ।

 नेपालमा भ्रष्टाचारको समस्या अहिले ज्वलन्त चुनौती बनेको छ । यो भनिन्छ कि केहि सार्वजनिक पद धारकहरूले आफ्नो कर्तव्यको वास्ता गर्दैनन्; बरु तिनीहरूले आफ्नो फाइदा मात्र हेर्छन्। उनीहरु भ्रष्टाचारमा संलग्न रहेको पाइएको छ । भ्रष्टाचारलाई बढावा दिनका लागि कतिपय कारणहरु जिम्मेवार छन् । तिनीहरू धेरै पैसा कमाउने चरम लोभ, स्वार्थ, इमानदारीको कमी र नैतिक मूल्यहरूको अभाव हो। यसबाहेक, दासत्वको गहिरो जरा गाडिएको संस्कृतिले मानिसहरूलाई भ्रष्ट हुन प्रोत्साहित गर्छ। त्यसैगरी, कम पारिश्रमिक नलिने कर्मचारीहरू आफ्नो दैनिकी चलाउनका लागि घूस लिन बाध्य छन्। आफ्नो कर्तव्य र दायित्व नबुझेका पदाधिकारी र नेताहरू भ्रष्टाचारमा संलग्न हुने सम्भावना छ । नेपालमा भ्रष्टाचारको अवस्थाले राष्ट्रको गरिमा र प्रतिष्ठालाई खलल पुर्याएको छ । जनता भ्रष्ट भए विकासको गति सुस्त हुन्छ । भ्रष्टाचारीहरु रातारात अवैध रुपमा धनी बन्छन् । धनी र गरिबको विभेद फराकिलो हुँदै गइरहेको छ । गरिबले धनीबाट थिचोमिचो महसुस गर्छन्। भ्रष्टाचारीलाई राज्यले कानुनी कारबाही नगरे गरिब र उत्पीडितले सरकारविरुद्ध विनाशकारी सङ्घर्ष सुरु गर्ने सम्भावना छ । अधिकारी र नेताहरूको भ्रष्ट मानसिकता र गतिविधिले उनीहरूलाई अन्य अपराधमा पुर्‍याउन सक्छ। भ्रष्टाचारले मानव सभ्यतालाई असफलता र विनाशतर्फ लैजान्छ भन्ने कुरा निश्चित छ । विद्यमान भ्रष्टाचारलाई जरैदेखि उखेल्न राज्यले भ्रष्टाचारीलाई कानुनी कारबाही गर्नुपर्छ । भ्रष्टाचारीले गैरकानूनी रूपमा जम्मा गरेको सम्पत्ति राष्ट्रियकरण गर्नुपर्छ । दासत्वको सिकार भएका कतिपय सर्वसाधारणले माग नगरे पनि अधिकारीहरूलाई केही प्रस्ताव गर्छन्। यस्ता मानिसहरूलाई घुसखोरी किन अपराध हो सिकाएर शिक्षा दिनुपर्छ । न्यून तलब पाउने कर्मचारीको तलब बढाउनुपर्छ । 

सबै भ्रष्टलाई पदबाट हटाउनुपर्छ । यसलाई रेडियो, टिभी र पत्रपत्रिका लगायतका माध्यमबाट प्रचारप्रसार गरिनुपर्छ । भ्रष्टाचार भनेको सामाजिक, कानुनी र नैतिक अपराध हो । यसले मानव सभ्यतालाई विनाशतर्फ लैजान्छ । यसलाई पहिले निरुत्साहित गर्नुपर्छ र बिस्तारै पूर्ण रूपमा उखेल्नुपर्छ। मानवीय गरिमा र समृद्धि अभिवृद्धि गर्न भ्रष्टाचारलाई कुनै पनि हालतमा उखेल्नुपर्छ ।