Written by: Swodhin Bhandari - 24029, Grade XI
Posted on: 24 June, 2022
Perfectionism is a personality trait that strives for flawlessness in any activity or occurrence they observe. People often mistake perfectionism as a psychological disorder but it is rather related with mental health issues and anxiety. While being a perfectionist a person who has perfectionism seems good to be perfect and have perfect things surrounding them but it is quite opposite than that of people’s mindsets, being a perfectionist is rather difficult, frustrating and it can put a heavy burden on your mental health. Perfectionist people always want everything to be perfect but it is rather impossible not everything is perfect. You cannot have the world revolve around yourselves. It sounds absurd but that is what being a perfectionist is.
While rather disturbing as it sounds it is not their fault being a perfectionist it is the effect of their friend circle, their family and the society they live in and on which they were brought up in. If you are wondering whether you are a perfectionist or not it is highly likely that you are a perfectionist too. Everyone is a perfectionist not on the extreme level because it varies from person to person. It is a fact that everyone has some sort of perfectionist traits and it is impossible to not have any. Having a feeling to achieve something or win something itself is a sort of trait of perfectionism or rather win or nothing is a trait of perfectionism.
Perfectionist people want to be like the high achieving people but they are quite different from each other. Perfectionists are fearful, have low self-esteem and they are concerned about failure. These traits can affect the lifestyle of the people and hold back their ability to reach greater heights, achieve their goals. Not everything is perfect but perfect is also imperfect itself because it varies from person to person because perfection does not exist physically. Perfection is based on a person’s perspective. Perspective itself can vary the definition of the term perfect from person to person. Something perfect in your perspective can be different in the other person’s perspective.
Low self-esteem, All or nothing mentality, fear of failure, Pushy towards peers are some traits that are found in perfectionists. Perfectionists point out mistakes and something that seems imperfect in their perspective which can annoy some people and in some cases their peers may start to avoid them. Since their low self-esteem being avoided may make them feel lonely and have anxiety which can cause other mental issues or degrade their mental health.
In the context of Nepal mental health is not regarded as a serious issue, but it is coming in the eyes of the public. People are getting aware day by day and we may be able to alert the people about these issues and we can help the people suffering from it.
