Written by: Surabhi Ghimire - 26012, Grade IX
Posted on: 16 November, 2022
Raising children is not an easy thing, although it may seem like it to some people. What does it mean to raise children or to become a parent? It requires time, care, engagement, love, support and understanding situations, how the child will react to a type of behavior. The process of taking care of one from birth to self-dependent adulthood. Raising one can cause them to be like you if you’re viewed as a role model. Fixing your bad habits and traits before becoming a parent will cause the child to be better. Also, what should be kept in mind is that the child is an individual human being too. Usually, parents forget this and realize later on. Time you give the child is going to affect them a lot. If you were absent all their childhood and try to communicate when they’re older it will not work. Parenting is defined as the process of raising children by supporting their physical, emotional, social, moral and intellectual development from infancy to adulthood. If you, as a parent, have no time for your child and do not try to make some whatsoever, I’m sorry but that can not be called parenting. It’s okay if you’re too busy with work but weekends exist. Spending time with your child should not be considered something that makes you tired, it makes it sound like a burden.
When you become a parent the number of responsibilities you have as a person increases. First, what most people don’t consider is their mental health before becoming a parent. Your mental health, if it is bad then the child will get affected by it even without you realizing it. The first and foremost movement for being a good parent is to make sure your mental health is alright before deciding to give birth. Then, if you are financially able or not. For example; the monetary needs have increased because of the child and you did not think of it before. The causes :
1. The child grows up in a bad environment filled with constant quarrels about money.
2. Never asking for gifts because of the cost.
3.They will try to avoid everything related to family.
4. Develop anger issues.
These things mentioned above will cause the child and parent relationship to grow distant. Let’s say you did everything right before giving birth to the child. Even after that, there are a lot of things to keep in mind while they are developing. Bad parenting can cause mental health issues. After becoming a parent and giving birth, first of all understand that the child’s life is not anything you are allowed to control, for example their job when they grow up. Planning their life before they are even born or start having interests. You are allowed to have expectations but do not mention it to them or force them into it. Let them do what they want. You will be gone when they become a proper adult. They will have to live decades after you leave, even though it is hard to process. Parents have to realize that the trauma caused to their children will definitely reflect on their adult lives and ultimately their relationship with their partners and the parents themselves. Besides providing basic necessities parents also must provide a loving and a safe environment for their child.
